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A real man….
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A bad date…
first date or not!!! We have all had bad dates but this takes the cake.
Jay Leno went into the audience to find the most embarrassing first date that a woman ever had. The winner described her worst first date experience.
There was absolutely no question as to why her tale took the prize!
She said it was midwinter…Snowing and quite cold.. And the guy had taken her skiing in the mountains outside Salt Lake City, Utah. It was a day trip (no overnight). They were strangers, after all, and had never met before.
The outing was fun but relatively uneventful until they were headed home late that afternoon.
They were driving back down the mountain, when she gradually began to realize that she should not have had that extra latte. They were about an hour away from anywhere with a rest room and in the middle of nowhere! Her companion suggested she try to hold it, which she did for awhile. Unfortunately, because of the heavy snow and slow going, there came a point where she told him that he had better stop and let her go beside the road, or it would be the front seat of his car.
They stopped and she quickly crawled out beside the car, yanked her pants down and started. In the deep snow she didn’t have good footing, so she let her butt rest against the rear fender to steady herself.
Her companion stood on the side of the car watching for traffic and indeed was a real gentleman and refrained from peeking. All she could think about was the relief she felt despite the rather embarrassing nature of the situation.
Upon finishing however, she soon became aware of another sensation. As she bent to pull up her pants, the young lady discovered her buttocks were firmly glued against the car’s fender. Thoughts of tongues frozen to poles immediately came to mind as she attempted to disengage her flesh from the icy metal. It was quickly apparent that she had a brand new problem, due to the extreme cold.
Horrified by her plight and yet aware of the humor of the moment, she answered her date’s concerns about’ what is taking so long’ with a reply that indeed, she was ‘freezing her butt off’ and in need of some assistance! He came around the car as she tried to cover herself with her sweater and then, as she looked imploringly into his eyes, he burst out laughing. She too, got the giggles and when they finally managed to compose themselves, they assessed her dilemma.
Obviously, as hysterical as the situation was, they also were faced with a real problem. Both agreed it would take something hot to free her chilly cheeks from the grip of the icy metal! Thinking about what had gotten her into the predicament in the first place, both quickly realized that there was only one way to get her free.
So, as she looked the other way, her first-time date proceeded to unzip his pants and pee her butt off the fender.
As the audience screamed in laughter, she took the Tonight Show prize hands down.
Or perhaps that should be ‘pants down. ‘ And you thought your first date was embarrassing.
Jay Leno’s comment…’This gives a whole new meaning to being pissed off.’
Oh, and how did the first date turn out? He became her husband and was sitting next to her on the Leno show.
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The “Hot guy”….me??
A Warning to those about to read this blog….I do tend to ramble on a bit, taking my time to get to the point, but if your patient, I believe you’ll smile when all is said and done.
Hello again my dear Reader’s. It has been awhile sense my last blog for that I do apologize, just been busy, but mostly I’ve been having trouble getting the words to, I don’t know, flow I guess. That being said, I’m writing this blog more for me than your reading. Anyway, I hope you will enjoy this latest effort. GRIN!!
It’s kind of surprise to me, that of all the subjects I’ve thought about writing about, this is the one that seemed to flow the best. Surprising, because the subject is about yours truly. I am not that comfortable singing my own praises, but in this instance it is necessary.
Lately, I have been getting more and more attention from some pretty hot women, telling me or people I know, that they think I’m a hot guy. When I hear this first hand or through a friend I’m flattered, but I’m kind of always thinking… “Me??” “Really?” “Must have me confused with someone else.” It’s not for a lack of confidence in who I am you understand, I just don’t take myself that seriously. That’s just who I am. It’s not like I have the six-pack abs, or an athletic build, and am well dressed all the time. I’m a t-shirt & jeans kind of guy, who stands 6’3 weighing in at around 210-215lbs. In my eyes, average, not any better or worse than most people out there. That is until a friend of mine told me of an encounter she had a few weeks back, which made me really look at what I do bring to the proverbial table.
So, I suppose starting off with the story that inspired my change of thought would be a good beginning. A few weeks back a friend of mine, who from this point forward I’ll refer to as “RED”, were laughing, chatting, and just having a good time in the others company, the way really good friends can and do. Anyway, when time came to say good-night and go our separate ways for the evening, I went my way, towards the front, as Red went towards the back, to our respective cars. Or so I thought. Red will later tell me this story…. Red had been stopped on the way to her car by a co-worker who told Red “There is a woman and two guys waiting to talk to you.” Red, understandably is a little apprehensive, and just a little curious. So, she asks, with her guard up a bit, “What about?” “Who are they?” The co-worker shrugs as he replies ” It’s the woman mainly, she wants to talk to you about your friend.” Red’s thinking takes a little u-turn. Now her guard is not so much up for her sake but for mine, and the curiosity interest has gone from a 2 to an 8. So Red walks over and asked the woman, politely inquiring “You wanted to see me?” The lady (who I’ll call Carol) kind of laughs and says “YES!!” “We, I should say I was wondering about the HOT guy you’re with all night.” Red asks “why?” Carol replies: “Hello, the guy’s HOT, & my boyfriend thinks your HOT too, were swingers you see & we…well we were wondering if you two would be interested?” Carol also asks Red if she thinks I’m Hot” As Red agrees that I’m a hot guy verbally. Inside Red is laughing, & thinking I’ve got to tell Art about this one. Outside Red politely declines her part in any kind of swinging activity, and that she is married…to someone else, and that she and I are just good friends. Red goes on to tell the trio (btw…the 3rd gentleman is Carol’s brother who seems to just be out with the two of them.) that I would more than likely not be interested, but knowing my friend (she hasn’t given them my name you see. Protecting me as I protect her..like in this blog.) the way I do, I’m sure he’d be willing to listen to your offer. Maybe not with your boyfriend present, but you can try. Carol is very willing to talk with me it seems, almost to eager, kind of throwing away the current boyfriend in her haste for the opportunity, saying to Red. That’s cool I’ll leave my boyfriend at home, that’s not a problem. (that reaction right there cost Carol any real chance at me, I believe the one your with is the one your with, throwing away her friend to meet a stranger just because she thinks there hotter. tsk tsk) Carol was willing to meet me one on one then, I guess she thought better of it and asked Red, if Red thought I’d mind if she brought her brother along to meet me? Red thinks about this for a second or two before answering, with this. “I don’t know for certain, but you can try, and I’ll be sure to ask him & tell him about your interests.” That seemed to satisfy, & then Red & Carol talked girl talk for a bit. From what Red told me later, “She is REALLY into you.” After hearing Red’s recounting of the trio, and most especially Carol’s interest in me, I was of course flattered, but at the same time thinking…ME? REALLY??
Later on that same night while at work, I received a text message via FACEBOOK. It was a “friend request”. The message read: “I just had to try being your friend, when I saw your pic among one of my other friend’s friends-list.” “Your smile is so…real, you look some where between cute & Hot.” GRIN! Quite the ego boost for one day. GRIN!! Truth be told I wasn’t sure the FB thing was legit, until I had the chance to look into it on my computer, but it was all on the up and up. :-D
Anyway, that night’s ego boosting got me to thinking. I’ve been told by many women, & even a few gay men (ha ha) through out the years, that I am somewhere between cute and HOT, depending on the person. Usually, my take on this, is these people are just being kind, or in some cases cruel. Luckily most are of the positive variety. YAY! So being the person I am, I have to find out the WHY, and WHAT these women see when they look at me. I realize part of the problem is I’m neither a woman or gay. GRIN!! One of the trends I’ve noticed is that my position on the “Hot/cold scale” if you would, seems to rise the longer these women know me. That was as good a place as any to start thinking about me, and what I have that that catches to attentions of others.
Talking about me or singing my own praises is not a comfortable act for me. It’s true, I would always rather talk up and compliment other people on their beauty, being smart, sexy, or whatever…if I believe it’s true. When it comes to me…well, I just feel silly. As it turns out I really shouldn’t, I know I have a lot to offer. So I made this list of some of those things….
- A quick and natural smile.
- Soft blue eyes, who some refer to as “bedroom eyes”
- Confidence in who I am..meaning I don’t feel I have to lie to empress.
- Good posture/bearing.
- I listen very well
- Observant, often seeing what others have missed.
- A quick wit
- Intelligent, not to be confused with being smart. :)
- Anti-Smoke
- Anti-Drug
- Good at teaching or coaching
- Patient
- I Care
- RESPECT of people, boundaries, beliefs and myself.
- Integrity
- Good Hygiene.
- Strength of Character
- Physical Strength
- Able to hold my own in most conversations
- Happiness - able to make people feel happy and laugh w/out being a clown
- Both children and animals seem to love me, kind of fond of them too.
- Willing to try or learn new things.
- Trustworthy- This is the one word people use to describe me. :)
- Truthful
- Loyal to my Family and Friends
- Love to cuddle
- Good with my hands, example massage
- Light on my feet- I do like to dance.
- Good memory - Past conversations, Birthday’s, faces
Ha Ha.. Kind of looks like I’m trying to fill out one of those date applications, but it’s not, it is just me. If you put it all together, someone will have a pretty good idea of who I am, what I’m about. I don’t go out of my way to empress anyone, I just live my life, and try to treat those I meet along the way with respect for who they are or are trying to be. I know I’m a beautiful person on the inside, so I suppose to be honest, some of what’s on the inside slips to the outside to be seen by the observant ones. GRIN!!
I’m not sure how entertaining this blog was for you dear reader, but it helped me to see I am a pretty HOT GUY. GRIN!!
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East to talk to…
Being easy to talk to has it’s good and bad points. In this case I’m writing a blog on the subject as it pertains to strippers and their clients. This is only an opinion (MINE), so if you find you disagree dear reader It’s OK. You have your opinion, or view of things, and I’d be happy to here your thoughts after your done reading this blog. In case I forget THANK-YOU for taking the time to read this.
Having gone to strip-clubs for sometime now in different locations around town, as well as other states. I find myself wondering sometimes what it is about strip-clubs that make some guys think they’re like regular bars in the sense that everyone there is looking for a date or companionship like at a singles bar. True there are a lot of beautiful woman, who ask if they can sit with you, or ask if you would like some company, but that is part of the job of a dancer. Talking with their customers, being easy to talk to is how Dancers get to know their clients and the clients get to know them.
Easy in this case means that the girls will sit and LISTEN to your troubles of the world outside. Your lies. Your truths. Your fantasy’s and dreams. Giving a bit of their time to a client in hopes that said client will possibly spend money on them in the form of dances, VIPs, and stage sets. You see, part of how a girl makes money is being a sounding board for their clients. Once in a great while, the girls will sometimes luck out and find a customer who is willing to listen to them and their problems in turn while also buying dances, VIPs, and tipping during her stage sets. When this does happen a real and true friendship can form. Both Client and Dancer look forward to seeing each other and catching up on each others lives, and not just for the money they can make, but for the company. Making real friendships IS a very rare thing, so Clients should not assume because THEY are into a certain Dancer, said Dancer is like wise interested in them.
Dancers aren’t trying to play clients false, but are often accused of doing so, because some guys get overly aggressive in their attitudes of interest towards a particular girl. It is a delicate balancing act of being friendly to a client, but not to friendly. OK! Yes, I know there are exceptions. Some girls are playing guys false just as some men are promising what they have no intention of delivering on, but THAT is part of the problem…trust. Most of the time the girls are just trying to establish a good repore’ with their customers by being easy to talk to.
One of the dangers dancers have to deal with are the customers who come in and don’t have any respect for strippers or the word NO when told to them. It’s true, some customers have no respect for how hard a job being a stripper really is. For one thing it is a very competitive business, because the girls work strictly on commission and part of that earning goes to the club in the form of fees. There are other things like doing a long set on stage and getting kind of sweaty because of it then have to turn around and be with a client smelling “April fresh.” There are lots and lots of things that go into a strippers job, but that is a blog for another day. Who knows maybe a stripper who reads this will write one. (H I N T!!!) Back to the guys who don’t respect how hard the job of a stripper is, or the profession it self for that matter. To these individuals, Strippers are nothing more than a form of legal prostitution. The clubs are where they are pimped out. These guys figure it is only a matter of money, as in I’ll “GIVE” you $1000 to go home with me tonight. A VIP-dance means that is where they can do whatever they want with a girl. Things like trying to finger fuck them, exposing themselves and jerking it, or saying they want a blow job and believing they’re entitled to receive it. JERKS!!! Why? How can this be?
For one it is the stereotype’s the general public at large believes is true. There are a few girls who allow this type of behavior, and that is probably because the club they are at does the ” I didn’t see a thing” bit. Knowing that some girls and clubs will allow this illegal behavior makes it more difficult for the ones who do follow the rules. When one girl goes against the rules, all the other girls are forced to deal with the fall out that follows in their wake. Some have to fight off clients physically like an attempted rape, it is not so easy to talk about attacks after words, because of the stereotype most people side with the client. A danger THIS client wishes the girls didn’t have to deal with.
Then there is the pick-up guy. This guy comes to clubs with the intention of taking a girl home, like at a singles bar. These guys are a bit delusional. In their delusional state of mind they are a God among women. These clients think because the girls are making themselves available to them, they really are into him, and want to get as close as possible. Like skin on skin close. Wrong of course, but to be told NO for any reason is a shock to them. They truly can’t believe a girl said NO to them, but when they do believe it is like a kick in the balls. Still, this type of client may become more persistent and will convince themselves the dancer is only playing hard to get. Figures it can’t be them, it must be a money thing. So, they start to say things like.. “I can pay you lots, and lots of money, I can afford you.” Back to the prostitute bit again…sigh. Having no clue at all, that strippers and prostitutes aren’t the same. Easy to talk to does not mean easy to screw. That’s just the delusional sort of “pick-up” guy. Then there is the lack of confidence guy who just doesn’t understand the girls at the club are not there to date you outside the club. These guys are sure if they’re witty enough or show a dancer he really thinks she’s hot, they’ll go out with them like in a pick-up bar. Maybe it is because the girls are making it easy for their possible client to talk to them, that these guys feel they have made a real connection. Who knows? Maybe the success of having a beautiful woman pay attention to them instead of dismissing them with a roll of the eyes, or a “yeah, right” expression goes to there head. ( you dear reader can choose which head…GRIN) Sadly this happens a lot more often than you would think. kind of a catch 22 for the Dancers, they have to talk with the clients and encourage the believe they’re happy in a clients company, but not so much that they feel it invades their own private lives.
Life of a stripper seems a tough one to me, because it deals with emotions, and sales, but without revealing to much of there own personality or private lives. Seems to me most strippers really love being around men. You know, just because. It could be our smell, our physical strength, or just the way we see things differently then they do. Who knows?? I like trying to figure it out however. GRIN!! Believe it or not a lot more of the girls are shy, but with a need to show off just the same, wanting to feel sexy and daring. Another thing I’ve found to be true is “Girls just want to have fun.” They hate being bored.
If you are able to hold your own when talking to these woman, in a sense be easy to talk to in your own right. GRIN!! Go ahead make them laugh, just don’t be a clown. Talk of hobbies or skills you have in common. LISTEN to what they have to say. If one can keep the girls happy with active conversations and dances, you’ll be remembered, and in a good light, and not just because of the money you’ve spent. Most guys don’t realize how smart most strippers are. Playing dumb seems to sell better than smart, but the smart ones are the ones we should all strive to be friends with, or at least become their regulars. In my book, smart IS sexy. Plus when your smart your easy to talk to. I guess now that I’m thinking about it the smart dancers have always been the ones I’ve been drawn too. Like Natalia, Sophia, Kat, Athena, Arielle, Amore’, Roxanne, and Kadasha. I can keep going, and going but you get the idea. All but the first four mentioned have gone on to other things, but I met each and every one of these smart easy to talk to women at clubs, many of them I still talk with today. Why are we still friends you might ask? I like to think it is because I treat all of them with respect, and I too am easy to talk to. Who knows maybe they’ll tell me one day.
Well, that’s it for this blog. Haven’t written one in quite awhile, so I’m a bit rusty, but I hope that you dear reader enjoyed this latest effort. Please as always feel free to comment here or tweet me via Twitter @ Notes_of_Art. Thanks for your time.
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DanceNataliaDance: Not Good Enough →
Two nights ago I had a frustrating encounter with a customer. The kind where you want to punch a locker afterwards (and I’m not the kind of the girl that does that shit). I was dancing on stage and two men, probably in their mid-forties, were sitting at my stage. One waves $100 at me so in typical…
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Unique, because I get it.
Having just finished reading a Blog titled “Delusional” by Natalia (http://dancenataliadance.tumblr.com). In said blog the topic of a rather strange customer was written about, as well as the nick names dancer’s give to their customers. True the nick-names the dancer’s give aren’t usually the most flattering, but have been justly earned all the same.
Anyway, thanks to Natalia’s blog I started thinking (OH! Oh!..:-0). First, have I earned a nick-name (s) of my own? As I thought about it, realized I have been given some, but they are all rather positive. “Smiley”, “Mr. Lucky”, and one a dancer by the name of Arielle used to call me “Comfort Zone.” :-) Which makes my nick names kind of unique, being on a more positive note. This thought of being unique brings me to the second reason for writing this blog. What is it I do or don’t do to earn a dancer’s notice, and then later on being put on her A-list if you will of Good Customers/Friends list?
OK, so bare with me as I try and explain what it is I do and don’t do while at a given strip-club. This is a bit hard for me, because to me my behavior seems like so much “no brain-er” stuff. Here are the basics I bring to the club.
Money: I set a limit for the amount I am going to spend on the dancers, and the club it self, such as drinks, video poker, food..etc.
Scheduling: If I have a way of contacting the dancer I’m coming to see ahead of time, I do so. My club time may not coincide with theirs.
Being flexible: No, I don’t mean I can put my ankle around my own head or anything. GRIN! I mean being flexible with your favorites availability to spend time with you. Hey, things happen. example- A customer ahead of you doesn’t do the usual of say 3 dances and He’s out, but instead he gets a VIP. Great for the dancer’s money, but bad for the girls timing. The Dancer will be running late, and feeling rushed all night. If you are understanding, and patient you will earn her gratitude, which is a long term plus. Trust me on this. :) However, if for some reason the fact she is behind schedule puts you in a time crunch, tell the dancer, but nicely. Don’t get an attitude like your being made to wait on purpose, because you aren’t. Friend or just steady client (“regular”), money comes first for her, this may be our play time, but it is her job, she will make the time for you if it is possible.
Fun: Go in with a smile. I don’t mean like your deranged, dancer’s are already weary of freaks, stalkers and getting to close to ‘custy’s’ without driving them away with an insane look. Just use your real smile, laugh a little, let the rhythm move you. It’s ok to look like your having a good time. You may think your being cool by being aloof, but looking uninterested doesn’t work for you any more than it does for the dancer. You’ve seen the girls all clustered at the bar, or sitting by themselves. One might wonder why they aren’t asking for a dance. You have to seem approachable, if your smiling, and having a good time your more apt to draw positive attention. Better yet if you do the asking, 98% of the time she is going to say yes. The 2% of the time she will say no, will be the time she is truly to busy, when you ask she maybe waiting on her VIP to come back from the bank or something.
Being Personable: OK. Here I might have an advantage on most guys. I’m an observant fellow, & I have an excellent memory. While also being able to talk about a variety of subjects, and LISTENING to what is being said in return helps a great deal in getting a person to relax and just be themselves. Having a good sense of humor helps too.
Respect: Go in respecting a dancer’s worth, her person, her rules, and her TIME. By respecting her worth means you don’t assume she is dumb. She may play the part of dumb at first, because unfortunately, the appearance of being dumb sells better than smart. The voices of the dancer’s will be an octave or two higher than her normal voice, whatever “witty” comment or joke you make will be laughed at or “acted upon, like she’s not sure what you mean.” The old “all Boobs no Brains” bit. Truth is most dancer’s are very smart, & are going to school to get even smarter, and in a sense having you pay for it. :)
Respecting the dancer as a person should be easy enough, she is a woman after all, treat her as a lady first, until she gives you a reason (if any) to treat her different. Women like confidence, but are not so big on aggressive. By being aggressive your asking for her personal information, real name, where they live, can you see them out side the club, phone number’s…etc. Dancer’s probably get asked these questions 10 times in a shift.
Respecting her rules is kind of the tricky part for a lot of guys, because they may differ from the club rules. Say your a guy that likes to put your hands on her breasts. SOME clubs allow this, IF in the VIP area, but not all Dancers are cool with this. So PLEASE ask her what you can and can’t do. True the more comfortable a girl is with you the more she might let you get a little more friendly, but that is something you must earn. If you abuse this privilege, & privilege it is, not a right you may find yourself getting 86’d from a club. Only the Dancer is allowed to tell you if and when rules can be bent. It’s her body, she’s had it all her life. Money comes and goes, but it can’t earn respect.
The respect of a Dancer’s time must really seem the hardest concept to grasp for many guys who go to the strip-club, but Natalia’s “Mr. Delusional” truly didn’t get it, and kind of what started my writing of this blog to begin with. In my opinion the only one allowed to tease at a club should be the Dancers. To tease the dancer with the promise of dances, in exchange for her company at the table for a few songs, and then not buying any dances seems like fraud to me. It’s just wrong, but in Mr. Delusion’s case, he spent $100 for the company, then went progressively less with each visit, never once buying dances. Sad I say.
OK, guys if you can think of it like this 3min of sitting at a table has cost a dancer $20.00 I say this amount because songs/dances last about 3min on average, and when you buy a dance it’s $20.00 a dance. OK granted $20.00 isn’t really so bad, but now say she has been talking with you for 30min thinking eventually you are going to buy dances, but still nothing, now you have just cost her $400.00. I say $400. because of the other clients who might be buying time, from the dancer if she wasn’t stuck talking with the non-paying one. If you do the math & spend $250.00 for a 30min VIP is a bargain for you, & she is committed to you for that entire half-hour giving YOU, and YOU only a very private dance. With the money your not spending on her, plus the time she IS spending on you doesn’t make you a very cost effective person any of the other dancer’s will want any part of on a future date. Most guys don’t realize teh girls watch us just as closely as we watch them, even more so if you ARE, buying dances, spending money. Remember they (dancers) are at work, your their paycheck. True most dancer’s are willing to sit that first 10min with no real worries, kind of a free bit of there time, but If you can’t respect that the dancers are at work, and time is money, then you probably shouldn’t bother coming in. Truth be told, if your not spending no one cares what your opinion is of “a waste of money”, because your a waste of time, and the fact your probably a little thick and missed the message before. TIME IS MONEY.
Good Hygiene: Maybe I should have started with this first. Oh well! :) Making sure I’m clean and my breath is good to go is just a small thing that can really mean a great deal to a girl getting close to you. If your funky, your night will not end as happy.
Trustworthy: I take a lot of pride in being able have Dancers trust me. If you had to deal with all the odd balls out there, you’d be a bit nervous getting to close, and letting your guard down too. Anyway, earning a trust is something I have earned over time, as well as word of mouth from one dancer to the next. One of the things I do to earn this trust is listen to complaints, woes, joys, fears, triumphs and anxieties over a variety of topics, BUT I NEVER REPEAT what is discussed with anyone else. Unless of course I have been given permission to share something with a third party by the girl herself.
Sorry guys, I know that many of you will never reach this comfort level with your dancers, maybe you don’t want to, your loss, but do try and prove you are trustworthy. It is hardly ever the big stuff, like an arrest, or a marriage breaking up, or a child got hurt you are likely to hear. The little stuff like they’re not happy, and why. Or A disappointment over a concert they missed will be the norm. If you are able to just listen without giving an opinion. Oh, and by the way it’s ok to have an opinion, probably even for the best. Just don’t voice it. YET! Sometimes a girl just wants to vent, so if you can just listen, and not repeat, a bond of trust will form. (I personnaly like being their sounding board, lets me know the type of person I’m dealing with, but hey that’s another blog. GRIN!) Forming a bond of trust takes effort, time, and an honest interest, in whatever she is willing to share. Don’t be afraid to get clarification on something you didn’t quite catch, if it is to private she’ll let you know, but more than likely she’ll be happy you’re listening, or trying anyway.
Sensitive subjects: If you have become a Dancer’s regular, you are more than likely privy to what subjects make her nervous or a little sensitive. As her regular a kind of friendship has probably also formed, so don’t betray that trust by trying to use guilt, or say out loud something negative about her, like her weight for example. Guys who use guilt, will try something like this…”I’ve spent lots and lots of money on you in the past, and have traveled miles out of my way just to come see you.” “Why do you have to be such a bitch?” “I only have $20.00, but we can still keep each other company, and I did travel all this way just to see YOU.” Refer to the above on time is money portion of this blog. You would’ve been their best friend at work, but once you start with guilt tactics that’s history. A Dancer, like anybody else can turn out to be your best friend, but while she is at work, well she’s at work. Bills have to be paid, and that takes money. OK Whining about travel and having no money can probably be forgiven if your history before that time was all on the up and up, but because your angry, embarrassed, or whatever doesn’t give you the right to take cheap shots, by heckling “your friend” when she is on stage, with weight jokes. Words hurt, no matter who invented the “sticks & stones” rhyme. All women are sensitive about weight from the best athlete to the largest woman on the planet, you know your going to hurt with weight jokes. That can not only lose you your friend for real, but get you 86’d from her club, and all other’s if the offense is great enough. Fair warning. If you claim friendship with a dancer or anyone else, be a friend, if your upset with a certain circumstance, fine be upset, walk away and voice or e-mail your reasons LATER, but listen to her reasons as well. Be a man.
Oops got a little carried away there. :-) I guess what I was trying to convey was my take on what makes me seem unique in the strip-club world, it’s because I get it. I bring money, a sense of trustworthiness, humor, respect, good hygiene, I’m personable, and approachable. I try to be as entertaining in my own way as the Dancer’s are in theirs. I do hope you enjoyed, and maybe learned something. As always feel free to comment.
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Some of the people that I like the best are the ones that want to sit and talk during dances and champagne rooms […] especially when we have a lot of things in common and I don’t have to sit around and twirl my hair while pretending to be dumber than a box of rocks.
–Ginger Lee. (via avaadore)
so true
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